Moving with Kids
By Briana D’Andrea
Moving is tough. It’s HARD. It’s even more difficult when you have little ones in tow. Sometimes in life, as the saying goes “You’ve gotta do what you gotta do.” That’s exactly what many of us do, in order to guarantee a better life for ourselves and for our family. We move around, we chase our career dreams and we work pretty darn hard at maintaining a sense of normalcy. That is probably the most difficult part.
Sure, packing and purging your things in boxes can be daunting, but it’s the uprooting of life that can create the complexities in life. Where will your children go to school? Will they make new friends? Will I find a doctor I can trust? What will it be like when we get there? Will it be Hard? The answer is YES. Will you figure all that out? YES. Sometimes we realize pretty quickly that the place we thought would work out, didn’t really fit the bill. Or the dream job we thought we needed was not quite what we had envisioned or maybe it was a stepping stone, to something even greater. The thing most humans are probably most afraid of is CHANGE. Taking that CHANCE. No one said life was going to be easy. I don’t think I’ve ever heard that saying.
It is a true feat to be able to reach for something and actually do it. If you’re blessed with an opportunity, take it. As hard as it may seem with young ones, it may be too late once they actually have a voice – an opinion. Pack one box at a time. Unpack one box at a time. If offered help…TAKE it! Put yourself out there. It’s not easy having those tough initial conversations with new people, but you’ll be glad you did. Immerse yourself in things that make you feel uncomfortable. It’s the only way we can grow as individuals.
Friendships WILL change. People WILL change. They will come and go out of your life. Those who stick by your side through the best of times and the worst of times are worth keeping around. Understand that distance can be tough. It can either forge relationships or tarnish them. Take time to be in the moment with your children and your family, because they are what’s most important and a constant in your life.
Take a family time out and go do something fun, that you’ll all enjoy, because they’re only little for so long. Take advantage of having takeout. Stick by your spouse, because you guys are a team. It’s SO easy to get frustrated with one another, but it’s important to keep things into perspective. Try putting the kids to bed early and having an at home date night, to reconnect. It’s going to be stressful, crazy and even unmanageable at times.
Understand that this is just a moment in time, a means to an end and when you look back on your life, you’ll be glad you took that CHANCE!!