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February, 2011 – Frugally In Love – Valentine’s Day Gifts That Wont Break The Bank

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By the Numbers

Frugally In love – Valentine’s Day Gifts That Won’t Break the Banktomcopeland1

By Tom Copeland

Are you ready to spend less on gifts this Valentine’s Day? You’re not alone; according to IBISWorld, a leading publisher of industry research, consumers are expected to spend nearly 5% less than they did last year. But just because other lovers will fork over about $28.6 billion dollars in the days and weeks leading up to February 14th doesn’t mean you have to.

And just because you want to spend less money this time around Cupid’s block doesn’t mean you have to compromise on the quality and thoughtfulness of your gifts. In fact, think of yourself as “frugally in love”, dismissing the tradition of pricy, unaffordable luxury goods in favor of gifts that are creative, fun, and most importantly, relay the message of the holiday: love. Here are some great gift ideas if you need to stick to a strict budget this year.

1. Get a spa gift card from Spafinder.com. Spafinder is a bustling marketplace that brings together thousands of participating local spas, buyers, and discounts and deals that tie it all together. You can ship, print, or email the gift cards at just about any price level, and in many cases, you can find gift cards to spas that regularly run $40, $50, or $65 specials.

2. Dine out for lunch instead of dinner. Take your darling to their favorite lunch spot or hit their favorite restaurant during an early bird special. Or, take the time and effort to cook a spectacular dinner at home. Even after hiring a babysitter for a few hours, you’ll probably still save money by eliminating steep dinner, wine, desert, and tip tab of a tradition Valentine’s dinner at a local restaurant.

3. Make a love basket. The idea here is to skip the dozen roses, candy boxes, and card trifecta (which together can pretty easily exceed a $50 alone), and instead put some thought and time into one dazzling gift basket filled and decorated with flowers, individually wrapped candy bars or packages, a handwritten love note, and a $10 gift card to a favorite coffee, tea, or donut shop, for example.

4. Latex Happy Valentine’s Day balloons can be picked up at any grocery store for a few dollars and are a sweet surprise or addition to your other gifts. There’s a bonus, too: balloons double as an effective child distraction device.

5. Affordable, quality wine can be found online and elsewhere. Renowned wine expert Gary Vaynerchuk hand picks the featured wines on the site Tastingroom.com, and for just $20 you can order a set of (6) 50ml taster bottles of wines in all varieties. Looking for some affordable bubbly? Kiplinger recommends 2006 Mont Marcal Cava Brut Reserva from Spain, priced at about $15, found in your local supermarket.

6. Cook a healthy and bountiful breakfast in bed.

7. Make a donation in your partner’s name to their favorite charity or cause. Everyone is passionate about something, so figure out what that passion is and make your donation of money, time or effort. If you’re not sure if that passion exists or not, just ask. At a Secret Santa party last year, I offered to make a $25 donation to a charity in the giftee’s name, and to my surprise, my gift was stolen twice before it settled on a happy winner who requested the donation be made to a local animal shelter.

8. Find something fun and interesting to do in our town. A great resource is PBpulse.com, a local nightlife and events guide published by the Palm Beach Post. Find something interesting that’s going on and offer to take your partner. Current and local concerts, musicals, plays, and much more can all be found there. Also check out “Press Releases” and the “Calendar” page on AroundWellington.com.

9. Spend the day together! While this may not be a plausible option for many people, spending the entire day with your loved one, doing whatever it is they want to do, is the most generous and thoughtful gift you can give this Valentine’s Day.

So don’t be bogged down by stellar prices on jewelry, handbags, suits, clothes, watches, or other traditional Valentine’s Day gifts you can’t afford this year. The message of Valentine’s Day is to show someone special that you love and care for them. You can show your affection and appreciation without spending a lot of money, so start getting creative and fall frugally in love!

Tom Copeland is the founder of Bullworthy.com, a Web development and content management firm in West Palm Beach. Find him at http://www.bullworthy.com.

February, 2011 – Brothers to the Rescue

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Cultural Corner

 

Brothers to the Rescue

 

By Marla E. Schwartz

 

 

A genuine act of civil disobedience is practiced by so few people these days. It allows people to demonstrate nonviolent resistance against what they deem to be unfair laws by refusing to obey such laws, demands, and commands of a government. A modern day tale of such a story involving Floridians, including a gentleman from Wellington, is conveyed in the book Seagull One: The Amazing True Story of Brothers to the Rescue {University Press of Florida, $24.95} written by Lily Prezello in collaboration with José Basulto. They presented their book at the 2010 Miami Book Fair International this past November.

 

Jose Basulto and Lily Prellezo
Jose Basulto and Lily Prezello. Photo by Marla E. Schwartz

Brothers to the Rescue, Inc. (BTTR), also known as

Hermanos al Rescate, began in 1991 in response to the surge of Cuban rafters who were dying as they tried to escape from the island in search of freedom in America. Basulto, founder of BTTR, was born in Santiago de Cuba, is a Cuban exile and a Bay of Pigs veteran. This courageous man, along with his friend, William “Billy” Schuss, were compelled to begin this humanitarian mission when Billy saw a report on the news telling the story of how a child, the same age as his son, died in the arms of a Coast Guard agent, after trying to flee Cuba on a makeshift raft.

 

Prezello does a magnificent job of chronicling the journey of these two men and everyone involved with BTTR, including volunteer pilots from 17 different nationalities; who conducted 1,840 search and rescue missions saving 4,200 lives. This book is Prezello’s first of hopefully many ventures into the book publishing business. Born in Havana, Cuba and exiled with her family to Miami in 1960, she has an outstanding reputation as a freelance writer for various magazines and newspapers in Miami and as an editor for Miami-based executives.

 

Lily Prezello. Photo by Oscar Suarez
Lily Prezello. Photo by Oscar Suarez

She

was the editor of Beyond The Grotto, her alumnae newsletter from her high school Our Lady of Lourdes Academy, is an English major from Florida International University, has participated in the Eckerd College Writers Conference in Paradise for the past four years, is part of the speakers bureau for the Archdiocese of Miami, has contributed to The Catholic Voice from 1987-1997 and has attended the Writer’s Institute at Miami Dade College. She and her husband Steve, along with their two daughters and grandsons live in Miami.

 

Many of us remember hearing stories of the rescues conducted by BTTR back in the ’90s, and we took it for granted that it was something that would go on indefinitely, or as long as it took to save as many people as possible. But it all came to an end on February 24, 1996 when fellow pilots were betrayed as two unarmed BTTR planes were shot down in international waters, murdering pilots Armando Alejandre Jr., Carlos Costa, Mario de la Pea and Pablo Morales over the Florida Straits. Basulto was flying on the day he saw his comrades shot down and made it safely back to Florida within three minutes of also being shot down. There is an understandable air of sadness when this soft-spoken man speaks of this incident. He sought criminal and civil charges over the matter and was awarded a $1.7 million judgment in January 2005 and a few months later used this money to offer a reward on information leading to the indictment of Raúl Castro on charges relating to the shooting down of these planes. His aim from the beginning was to assist and rescue raft refugees emigrating from Cuba and to support the efforts of the Cuban people to free themselves from dictatorship through the use of active nonviolence.

 

The book reads as a real life murder-mystery, espionage tale as BTTR2seagull-one-book-cover-by-jose-basulto-and-lily-prezello was infiltrated by two spies, one who was a double agent working for the FBI, that led to the events of that fateful day when four innocent men, three American citizens, were brutally murdered over international waters. The book tells the tales of love stories that were forged because of this group and it explains how our government was complicit in changing the Cuban Adjustment Policy to the “Wet Feet/Dry Feet” policy, which in essence doomed people to their fate.

 

The book also vividly describes the gallantry of all the BTTR pilots including Wellington Resident Carlos V. Tabernilla who had forty-years of experience as a pilot, worked in the agriculture industry in the Glades for over thirty years and lived in the Wellington Aero Club. His plane was called El Viejo Pancho, named after the plane his grandfather flew as a Five-Star General and head of the Armed Forces of Cuba under President Fulgencio Batista. His father, Carlos M. Tabernilla, was also a military man serving as Chief of the Air Force with the rank of Colonel and later as Brigadier General. It was on January 1, 1959 that his family escaped Cuba. Tabernilla was diagnosed with a cancerous tumor in his heart, but despite his deteriorating health condition, he continued to fly his missions. Unfortunately he passed away at age sixty on October 1, 2010, the day of the book launch party.

 

Basulto and Prezello were able to find time during their busy book tour to answer a few questions about their book for us.

 

How did the two of you meet?

 

Lily Prezello (LP): We have mutual friends, René and Marta Guerra. I had helped René in some writing projects and he liked my work and told me ‘you need to write the story about BTTR’. I had never thought of writing a book, so Rene invited me to meet José. We started going through the BTTR documents at a warehouse and we spent six months going through the paperwork. José then started introducing me to all the people who worked with the organization. I interviewed over a hundred people.

 

Can you explain the title choice?

 

José Basulto (JB): I am Seagull One. A seagull is a very beautiful creature. It’s usually near the coast and it’s a signal to mariner’s that they’re reaching their destination. It’s a peaceful animal and it always flies looking down, searching for something and that’s what we did. We used to fly looking down, slow, like a seagull does, on a mission of peace. I felt it was appropriate to call ourselves seagulls. Seagull Charlie, Seagull Bravo, like the letters of the alphabet according to who was the pilot and I was Seagull One (his radio call sign).

 

Was it frustrating at first that you had such a difficult time actually seeing the rafters?

 

JB: We had a pretty good idea that it was going to be difficult to see them because in 1990 we started doing the experiments necessary for the operation and we knew we had visibility issues to resolve before we announced that we were going to go out and look for rafters.

 

When rafters you’ve saved come up to you, what specifically do they say?

 

JB: I’ll tell you, I was turning a corner on 8th Street, close to LeJeune, and there was this guy in a new convertible car and this fellow was by himself with several beautiful girls and he looks at me and says, ‘Basulto, thank you’!

 

Can you discuss what happened the day the planes were shot down?

 

JB: I was flying the plane that did not get shot down. I saw the smoke in the distance where the planes had fallen. It was a hit an assassination. And I am here, alive for some reason and I believe that it is to denounce both sides for what they did that day and to tell the story. If there is no truth there will not be justice because you cannot have justice without truth. Someday, somewhere, somehow someone in the U.S. government will point the finger to the ones who made it possible for the Castro government to assassinate those kids that day.

 

Basulto explained that he’s now retired and Lily is working on her next book, an historical-fiction novel, based on the life of a 101-year-old Cuban-American woman.

 

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Marla E. SchwartzA native of Toledo, OH and a graduate of Kent State University, Marla E. Schwartz is a Senior Writer for Miami Living Magazine and is currently a freelance writer for AroundWellington.com and Lighthouse Point Magazine. Her photographs have appeared in numerous Ohio publications, as well as in Miami Living, The Miami Herald, The Ft. Lauderdale Sun-Sentinel and The Palm Beach Post. She has had numerous plays published and produced around the country. Her short play, America’s Working? was produced in Los Angeles at both the First Stage and the Lone Star Ensemble theater companies, in Florida at Lynn University and then at an off-Broadway playhouse in NYC. Her piece, The Lunch Time Café, was a finalist for the Heideman Award, Actors Theatre of Louisville. Please check out the re-prints of her interviews with authors Dave Barry & Ridley Pearson and Dexter novelist Jeff Lindsay in the October 2010 issue of Duff Brenna’s ServingHouse: A Journal of Literary Arts at www.servinghousejournal.com. Please feel free to contact her at marlaschwartz@att.net.

 

February, 2011 – Hey! Who Ate All My Candy???

Creature Feature Stephanie Karpf

 

Hey!  Who Ate All My Candy???

 

By Stephanie Karpf, DVM

 

 

    Aaaahhhh, Valentine’s Day.   What do we think of when we ponder this wonderful holiday about love?  That’s right…CHOCOLATE!!!  Lots and lots of chocolate!

  Invariably, at this time of year, I am bound to get a number of calls from distressed dog owners whose furry friends have gotten their little (or very big) snouts into a heart-shaped box full of chocolate treats.  It is certainly true that chocolate is toxic to dogs.  However, there are many different varieties of chocolate, and some are much more toxic than others.

 

  The most common type of chocolate treat is milk chocolate, of course.  Luckily, milk chocolate is also the variety that is the least toxic.  The level of toxicity of any variety of chocolate, has to do with how much of a chemical, called methylxanthine, is present.  In milk chocolate, the amount of this chemical is much smaller (64 mg/oz.), than the amount in semisweet chocolate, which would have more than twice this amount per oz.  Baker’s chocolate, contains about six times the amount of this chemical per ounce. 

 

  A 22 lb. dog would need to eat between 10 and 20 oz. of milk chocolate to be poisoned from it.  This is quite a feat for such a small dog.  About half this quantity in dark chocolate, would be a problem.  It is also important to remember, that many of the chocolates that we find in these gift boxes, are filled with a different substance like cream or nougat.  So, the weight of the treat isn’t necessarily all made up of the actual chocolate. In most cases, dogs do not eat enough chocolate to cause themselves a truly dangerous problem.

 

  That being said, a dog that ingests any chocolate, will likely end up with gastrointestinal upset.  This could include symptoms like diarrhea, vomiting, and inappetence.  If this should happen, your vet will treat this like any other case of tummy troubles with a bland diet, and sometimes with medications to help clear up nausea or diarrhea.

 

But, if your dog should be the one to gluttonously devour your romantic box of chocolate delicacies in quantities large enough to cause toxicity, then you could find yourself with a true medical emergency.  The first signs of chocolate toxicity include vomiting and diarrhea, and this usually begins within the first 2 to 4 hours after ingestion.  Other signs are fever, restlessness, hyperactivity, and increased urination.  Advanced signs include muscle stiffness, excitement and seizures.  Eventually, untreated chocolate toxicosis can lead to cardiac failure, weakness, coma and death.

 

If your dog decides to sample your sweets, then it is always best to err on the side of caution.  Be sure to call your veterinarian immediately after discovering that your dog has eaten some chocolate, to find out if the amount ingested is something that should be cause for concern.  It is important that you know how much your dog weighs, what type of chocolate was ingested, and approximately how much this chocolate weighed.  When caught early enough, induction of vomiting to remove chocolate from the stomach, followed by administration of activated charcoal into the gastrointestinal system to remove as much chocolate as possible, can be life saving.  Delaying treatment even by a few hours can have severe consequences.

 

So, enjoy Valentine’s day.  But keep that gigantic box of sweets from your sweetie, out of Fido’s reach!

 

Stephanie Karpf, DVM, is co-owner of The Visiting Vet, a house call veterinary service for dogs and cats serving Palm Beach County.  For an appointment, call (561) 252-8874.

February, 2011 – The New Rules Of Flying

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As I Was Saying

 

The New Rules of Flying Alan Williamson

 

By Alan Williamson

 

            “How was your flight?” is a loaded question these days. Compared to crash landing on a remote island and being harassed by hostile inhabitants, a deadly cloud of black smoke and a man with cultish delusions of Godliness named Jacob, I’d rate most of my flights as passable. But if people in high places in the airline industry are interested, I do have a few suggested changes to make the flying experience less (what’s the word?) turbulent.

 

New Rule # 1: Cancel “The Price is (Not) Right.”  It used to be that if you booked far enough in advance you got a lower rate and if you booked closer to your flight date the rate was higher. Simple. Fair. Logical.

In today’s “The Price is (Not) Right” game, no matter when you book, getting the best price on a flight takes diligent research, impeccable timing and an acceptance of the fact that whatever price you lock in at can be undercut within the next 48 hours by a price 25 to 40 percent lower. Oh, what’s that you say? You want that new, low, low price? No problem. That will cost you a flight cancellation fee of $125 and – oops – the flight you wanted to re-book at the lower rate just went up again by another $100. (Shouldn’t have taken that bathroom break.) So champ, do you want to book it and lock it in or click on the “check flights” button and see what the next price comes in at? Now I don’t know about you, but if I ran the airline show that’s one game of chance I’d pull the plug on faster than you could say Pat Sajak.

 

New Rule # 2: Involve Passengers in Anti-Terrorism Efforts. Currently, before a commercial airliner takes off, flight attendants instruct all passengers in the use of emergency equipment and check to see that seatbelts are fastened and seats are in the upright positions. Let’s also have them make the following announcement:

 

“Before we take off, we ask that all passengers please check fellow passengers in your immediate area for any screwballs, weirdos, wackos, misfits, haunted drifters or fidgety religious fanatics.”

 

Hey, I’m an observant guy and I’m happy to do my part. Besides, I could use a break from thumbing through the Sky Mall catalog fantasizing about buying the Sound-Activated Video Camera Pen, the King Tutankhamen Egyptian Throne Chair, and the Upside Down Tomato Garden.

 

New Rule # 3: Tighten Passenger Boarding Requirements. Under normal circumstances I’m a live and let live kind of guy. But let’s face it, there’s nothing normal about hurdling through the sky crammed into a metal cylinder with 300 strangers, many of whom are rumored screwballs, weirdos, wackos, misfits, haunted drifters and fidgety religious fanatics. Airport security already screens all passengers for weapons and suspicious paraphernalia. Why not screen for obnoxious personality traits and hazardous health conditions?

 

Case in point # 1: There was a guy sitting behind me on a summer flight from Fort Lauderdale to Detroit who sneezed and coughed the entire two and a half hours. When he wasn’t sneezing and coughing he was snoring in a way that every time he inhaled you could hear his musical mucus rattling in his sinuses. With a rigorous health screening, this bobble head would be turned away at the gate and told to go Google “immune system” to see if he could pick one up for a future flight.

Case in point # 2: There was a women sitting near me on a recent flight who read her magazine from cover to cover. Sounds pretty harmless, right? The perfect seatmate. I left out one little detail: she read it out loud. Here’s an excerpt:

 

“Surrounded almost entirely by shallow, neon-bright aqua lagoons, Bora Bora is all about snorkeling.”

 

          Okay, now multiply that by two hours and 30,000 more words. Granted, it would be difficult to root out non-stop talkers at a security screening, but anyone who begins to tell their life story to the person behind them in line while their carry-on bag is being x-rayed should be pulled aside and put in a sound-proof room to be monitored via closed-circuit TV and detained until their lips stop moving.

          Look, I realize that some of these “new rules” might come across as harsh and self-serving. Honestly, that’s not where I’m coming from. I offer these suggestions purely in the interests of helping the troubled airline industry rise above their spiraling cost, safety and customer satisfaction problems.

          And just to be clear, I’m not looking for any special recognition or major financial reward for my insightful feedback. Round-trip, first-class tickets for my wife and I to anywhere in the United States would be more than adequate as a token gesture of thanks. That, and if it’s not too much trouble, the King Tutankhamen Egyptian Throne Chair from the new Sky Mall catalog (page 88, right next to the underwater pogo stick).

 

Alan Williamson is an award-winning writer with 27 years in the field of true fiction (advertising). A practical man who knows that writing for a living is risky going, he has taken steps to pursue a second, more stable career as a leggy super model. Alan can be reached at alwilly@bellsouth.net.  © 2011 Alan Williamson.

February, 2011 – Astrology At Work In Your Life

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karolacrawford2ASTROLOGY AT WORK IN YOUR LIFE        

 

February, 2011

 

By Karola Crawford

 

 

   Happy Birthday to Aquarius.  Some may call you the Super Sign of the Zodiac as you are a fixed air sign.  You are all about friendships and relationships with groups of people, and hopes, dreams, goals and objectives are foremost in your life.  You are a humanitarian and will break the rules that need to be broken in order to create new advancements for the betterment of mankind.  Some may call you the rebel of the signs for you cannot be held back by any force when you feel the need for action.  Your ruler is Uranus, which is known for its sudden, exciting, unpredictable and restless nature.  You have the ability to persist in a single minded determination and are very resourceful.  Aquarius is very intellectual and you can present what you believe to be the truth to the public.  You are also very independent, eccentric, friendly, impulsive, rebellious, magnetic and strong-willed.  Born under this sign, you pour out to mankind the life-force and spiritual energy under the sign of brotherhood and those whom you befriend have your unswerving loyalty.  Some will see that you are “ahead of your time” and you may find that others are frequently incapable of comprehending your ideas, which will probably annoy you.  You enjoy meeting people and exchanging ideas. 

 

This is a good month to put extra energy into your love life and create a unique experience for Valentine’s Day.  Since you don’t follow the examples shown by others, let your creativity conjure up a once-in-a-lifetime experience that only a Kodak moment will preserve.  Enjoy yourself and give your body and mind a much-needed rest by indulging in a massage and relaxing with friends.  Since you take your work so seriously, nervousness and apprehension can leave you feeling worn out so take full advantage of a luxurious break.

 

   Pisces – Life continues to be unpredictable and your sensitive nature reacts responsively to the thoughts and feelings of others.  You desperately want to do the right thing….Hang in there.  Sometimes you have to go on faith alone.   See what you want now without any objections.

 

   Aries – You are finding new ways to use your creative energy.  Can you be the inspiration for a special Valentine’s Day that you will remember for years to come.  You know that it’s not real if you don’t get to talk about it.

 

   Taurus – Only you know that working with the practical aspects of life will give you spiritual truth.  Focus your attention on those close at hand and recognize the value of sharing with others.  A special someone loves your devotion.

 

   Gemini – All that thinking requires an outlet and you have it.  Remember to keep your words positive and stay in the moment.  Quiet meditation will do wonders on finding ways to give your ideas wheels..

 

   Cancer – Major changes are occurring, however, you have sensed this for a long time now.  The changes made will be permanent, so gear up by letting go and stop controlling the outcome.

 

   Leo – Your desire to be first is rewarded by your generosity and nobility of feelings.  There are still issues that seem foggy, but they will soon become crystal clear.  You love romance, so take advantage of a special night with that significant other.

 

   Virgo – You have changed so many things in your life now that it doesn’t seem that anything else could be turned topsy-turvy.  Create magic on Valentine’s Day by letting your sentimental creativity out.

 

   Libra – Your desire to initiate activities will pay off.  Don’t compromise any principles to gain recognition and you will see results.  Organization is the key to all events and it will pay off to listen to that mentor.

 

   Scorpio – Your incredible energy will pay off if you use the high road.  You know how to make a special night, so take your honey on a special ride for Valentine’s Day.  None can compete with your intensity so start planning.

 

   Sagittarius – Action is the name of the game as your Ruler is energized by Mars.  You have been holding back, waiting, but now your time has come.  Things will come together and move forward, and you have your choice of where to spend your Valentine’s Day.  There are no wrong choices.

 

   Capricorn – Life may be on hold for a bit this month so keep planning, but don’t expect action until later.  Remember, when one door closes, another one opens up.  Valentine’s Day will hold a surprise.

 

Karola Crawford, MAFA, has been a certified Astrologer for 25 years. She has cast charts for clients all over the world and also practices Holistic medicine, Yoga, Shiatsu, Reiki, Auricular Acupucture and is an accomplished artist. Where does she get all of her energy? A grand trine in fire, of course. Karola can be reached at 561-234-6338 or by visiting the web site at www.shamanofvisionsforhealing.com.

 

 

 

 

February, 2011 – Sexual Dysfunction in Men and Women

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Sexual Dysfunction in Men and Women

By Vanessa Vizcaino, M.D.

 

            What better way to introduce this topic than to add it to the February issue for Valentine’s Day? Sexual dysfunction or sexual problems are defined as difficulty during any stage (desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) of the sexual act, which prevents the individual or couple from enjoying sexual activity.  I know there are many questions about libido, orgasms, and sexual function in general, because both my male and female patients of all adult ages ask me on a daily basis. People are often embarrassed to ask questions regarding sex for obvious reasons. I am here to tell you all not to be embarrassed! Sexuality and sex is a major part of adult life, and even as we age, it is important to address the issues that come up.

          In a JAMA article from 1999 in a survey of men and women aged 18 – 59 years, about 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men reported some sexual problem. I suspect the numbers haven’t changed much. I found a list on Discovery Health with the following little-known facts (mostly about women):

  1. About 10 percent of women have never had an orgasm.
  2. Painful intercourse has been experienced by almost two out of three women at some time in their lives.
  3. It is common for breast-feeding women to have inadequate vaginal lubrication.
  4. About 15 percent of postmenopausal women experience a decrease in their sexual desire.
  5. The success rate for women’s orgasmic dysfunction treatment by sex therapists tends to range from 65 percent to 85 percent.
  6. About 22 percent of women experience low sexual desire (compared to 5 percent of men).
  7. Some 21 percent of men experience premature ejaculation.
  8. A woman’s level of androgen (a hormone that develops and maintains masculine characteristics) typically falls 50 percent during and after menopause (but it’s unclear whether the drop translates into decreased sex drive in a large percentage of women).

As far as men are concerned, many think the “little blue pill” can fix anything that occurs in this department. This is of course a myth, and any man that has had this problem can attest to this fact. This is mostly because sexual problems can come from physical or psychological issues, and sometimes both. Many chronic illnesses and the medications used to treat them can cause sexual dysfunction at any stage. Sometimes, despite having no physical problems, men simply have a hard time. Emotional factors affecting sex include both interpersonal problems and psychological problems within the individual. Interpersonal problems include marital or relationship problems, or lack of trust and open communication between partners. Personal psychological problems include depression, sexual fears or guilt, or past sexual trauma. These of course can affect women as well, and often contribute to more of the problem with young women than any other physical issue.

Women are often more emotional and we have a hard time separating the sexual act from the emotional component of the relationship. Let’s face it, how often has a couple been at odds over an issue or fight? And even though the man is willing and able to overlook that in order to get sex, the woman just can’t bring herself to get intimate. As with everything, there are exceptions to this, but from clinical experience I can tell you this is often a source of discord in many relationships. I like to refer my patients to counselors or therapists to work on their emotional barriers and issues in order to experience a better sex life. Simple, open, accurate, and supportive education about sex and sexual behaviors or responses may be all that is required in many cases. Some couples may benefit from joint counseling to address interpersonal issues and communication styles. Psychotherapy may be required to address anxieties, fears, inhibitions, or poor body image.

Physical issues also contribute to sexual dysfunction. Some of these include:

·         Injuries to the back (typically the lumbar and sacral spine)

·         An enlarged prostate gland

·         Disease (diabetic neuropathy, multiple sclerosis, tumors, and, rarely, tertiary syphilis)

·         Drugs, such as alcohol, nicotine, narcotics, stimulants, antihypertensives (medicines that lower blood pressure), antihistamines, and some psychotherapeutic drugs (used to treat psychological problems such as depression)

·         Endocrine disorders (thyroid, pituitary, or adrenal gland problems)

·         Failure of various organs (such as the heart and lungs)

·         Hormonal deficiencies (low testosterone, estrogen, or androgens)

·         Nerve damage (as in spinal cord injuries)

·         Problems with blood supply

·         Some birth defects

 

Treatment exists for sexual dysfunction no matter the cause. Depending on the cause, some issues are easier to fix than others. For people with nerve damage and severe psychological trauma, treatments are not always effective. Listed below are some common treatments:

– Medical causes that are reversible or treatable are usually managed medically or surgically. Physical therapy and mechanical aides may prove helpful for some people experiencing sexual dysfunction due to physical illnesses or disabilities.

-Sildenafil (Viagra) or one of the other drug variations may be helpful for men who have difficulty attaining and keeping an erection. The medication increases blood flow to the penis. Men who take nitrates for coronary heart disease should not take these drugs.

-Mechanical aids and penile implants are an option for men who cannot attain an erection and find the above medications are not helpful.

-Women with vaginal dryness may be helped with lubricating gels, hormone creams, and in cases of premenopausal or menopausal women, with hormone replacement therapy. In some cases, women with androgen deficiency can be helped by taking testosterone. Kegel exercises may also increase blood flow to the vulvar/vaginal tissues, as well as strengthen the muscles involved in orgasm.

-Behavioral treatments involve many different techniques to treat problems associated with orgasm and sexual arousal disorders. Self-stimulation and the Masters and Johnson treatment strategies are among the many behavioral therapies used. ( http://masters-johnson-method.com)

I hope you all find this helpful and I encourage anyone with these issues to seek help. I believe sex is a crucial part of adult life and it is an integral part of romantic relationships. Make time for it, be open to new techniques and ideas and more importantly, ENJOY IT!

Have a wonderful, fun and exciting Valentine’s Day!

 

Vanessa Vizcaino, MD

If you would like further information, please call us at Family Medical and Wellness Center (561) 721-1953.

February, 2011 – Songwriters’ Showcase

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FREE Songwriters Showcase on Feb. 6th 

Peter’s Livingroom along with the World’s Entertainment & Information network(WEInetwork.com) is proud to invite you to a FREE Songwriters Showcase at the new Amphitheater in Wellington. Sunday, February 6th from 10 AM to 4 PM, some of the best talent in Florida will be performing at this Amphitheater. Including 2 Grammy Nominees.
Come on out for an afternoon of music that will be enjoyable for the whole family. Food will be available, but all you have to bring is your chair or blanket, as well as some cash so you can purchase some CD’s if you so desire.

Remember:
Wellington Amphitheater
Sunday February 6, 2011
10am to 4 pm
For more information contact WEInetwork.com

February, 2011 – Valentine’s Ideas and More

February, 2011                                                                                                            

 

Dear Around Wellington Readers,

 

Happy February and Happy Valentine’s Day!krista-joe-tree2

 

We have quite a few articles that touch upon themes of Valentine’s, romance and sweet things to do!  If you’re willing to travel and make it an extra-sweet Valentine’s Day, check out “Travel with Terri” this month.  From Chicago Chocolate Tours to Max Brenner’s Chocolate Restaurant in NYC to chocolate-covered February in Hershey, PA – Terri Marshall gives us the full decadent chocolate report. And she should know, since she is also the chocolate expert over at Examiner.com.

 

Speaking of chocolate, our “Visiting Vet” Stephanie Karpf discusses the potential problems for dogs that occur when they accidentally get into a box of chocolates. Do you know which chocolate is more toxic and which chocolate is milder for them?  To understand more of the toxic chocolate issue, read her “Creature Feature” this month.

 

For some people, roses are the best gift on Valentine’s Day. However, our advice columnist Dr. Z responds to one woman who just doesn’t care for roses. She has some wise words for the “Rose Rebel,” which might come in handy for any couple who has trouble knowing how to communicate better and understand each other’s needs better.

 

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Dr. Lesley Glover, Dr. Vanessa Vizcaino and Heather Loguidice, ARNP

 

 

In our “AW Spotlight” story, we feature Family Medical and Wellness Center, which includes the terrific team of Dr. Lesley Glover, Dr. Vanessa Vizcaino and Heather Loguidice, ARNP. What’s new in the world of Family Medical and Wellness Center? First is the addition of Heather Loguidice, who has been a great help to patients and a great fit for their team. Second is their new, more convenient location – in one of the professional offices right behind Wellington Regional Medical Center. By the way, Dr. Vizcaino takes a turn at writing “Ask the Docs” this month and gives some excellent advice on the subject of sexual dysfunction in men and women…just in time for Valentine’s Day.

 

This month Wendell Abern in “Cantankerously Yours” takes us on a trip down a memory lane of Jewish humor and linguistics, as he delves into “Hebonics” (Jewish English). In this funny and original piece, he reminds us of the roots of Jewish humor and what makes Jewish comedians sometimes so extra funny.

 

Hey Parents!  Wouldn’t it be nice to have someone keep track of which restaurants offer “Kids Eat Free” nights around Wellington and Royal Palm Beach?  Local Mom Shawn Thompson has been doing just that for us in “Kids’ Corner” and updating it each month. Check it out and save, save, save!!!

 

When reading “Lighten Up with Lisa” I continue to learn new things and to get inspiration. This month she introduces a concept which was new to me, Munay-Ki, which means “Love Energy.”  It’s a method of healing and of communication; Lisa Dawn Wax shares it with us as her Valentine’s gift to our readers.

 

Thanks to Jathy Garcia in “Living Green” this month, we have a great list of “Top Green Bathroom Tips for 2011.” These are excellent ideas for your own health and for the overall health of our environment, including a “recipe for non-toxic bathtub cleaner.” 

 

I love our “Teen Talk” writer’s column this month – “Roses are Red, Money is Green.” Stephanie Courtois, who seems wise beyond her years, gives us a nice dose of reality, as well as a beautiful message when it comes to gift-giving on Valentine’s Day.

 

Don’t forget to enter our easy Contest, which runs from Feb. 1st – 10th! The winner will receive a one-hour massage at Massage Envy in Royal Palm Beach!

 

Thanks to our AroundWellington® writers who make every month so special!  I can never cover enough ground in these letters from the editor, so just consider it a starting point…with so much more good content to explore.  And thanks to you, our readers, for your valuable input!

 

Around Wellington in Pictures

As I Was Saying

Ask Dr. Z

Ask the Docs

Astrology at Work

AW Coupons

AW Spotlight

AW Stories of the Month

By the Numbers

Calendar

Cantankerously Yours

Contest

Creature Feature

Cultural Corner

Kids’ Corner

Lighten Up with Lisa

Living Green

Photo Galleries

Poem of the Month

Press Releases

Teen Talk

Travel with Terri

 

 

Happy Valentine’s Day to you!  Hope it’s a sweet one!  THANKS again to our intern Damon Webb for all of his hard work on helping with this February issue. And thanks to my husband (pictured above with me…in an old photo), who helps so much each month – with accounting, HTML and other jobs that I am not well-suited for.  That’s why we are a great pair!  Isn’t it romantic?

 

Cheers,

 

Krista Martinelli

Editor

AroundWellington.com

April, 2011 – Poet Mary Oliver at Lynn University

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Mary Oliver Presented in Partnership with The Palm Beach Poetry Festival

 

A selected reading of poems, Q & A and book signing.

Mary Oliver’s poetry, with her lyrical connection to the natural world, has firmly established her in the highest realm of American poets. She has received countless distinctions, including the Pulitzer Prize and the National Book Award, and the The New York Times describes her as “far and away, this country’s [America’s] best-selling poet.”

She is renowned for her evocative and precise imagery, which brings nature into clear focus, transforming the everyday world into a place of magic and discovery. As poet Stanley Kunitz said, “Mary Oliver’s poetry is fine and deep; it reads like a blessing. Her special gift is to connect us with our sources in the natural world, its beauties and terrors and mysteries and consolations.”

Oliver has authored many books of poetry, including her first collection, No Voyage and other Poems (1965); the Pulitzer-prize winning American Primitive (1984) and New and Selected Poems (1992), which won the National Book Award. Over the past two decades she has taught at various colleges and universities – Case Western Reserve, Bucknell, Sweet Briar College, the University of Cincinnati and Bennington College in Vermont.

Complimentary tickets are available for Lynn faculty, staff and students. 
Please contact the Box Office to reserve your seat.

 

 


Mary Oliver: a selected reading of poems, Q&A and book signing
Saturday, April 09, 2011 at 7:30 PM
Keith C. & Elaine Johnson Wold Performing Arts Center
Lynn University
3601 North Military Trail
Boca Raton, FL 33431
Phone: (561) 237-9000
Website: www.lynn.edu/tickets
E-Mail: tickets@lynn.edu
Map & Directions

 

 

 

Tickets: $15

February, 2011 – Ask Dr. Z

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Ask Dr. ZLaura Zipris

February, 2011

By Laura Zipris, Psy. D., LMHC

Dear Dr. Z.,

Is it wrong to say that I hate roses?  My husband brings me flowers only one time a year on Valentine’s Day.  For years I have feigned joy and excitement about the dreaded bouquet but I fear that I may not be able to keep up this act much longer.  Not only do I find the purchase a waste of our hard earned money, but I view it as an obligatory gesture and a cop out.  The gift actually makes me angry, but I say nothing to him because I do not want to discourage his one attempt at romance.

Signed,

The Rose Rebel

 

Dear Rose Rebel,

I am very clear about what it is that you do not want from your husband on Valentine’s Day but you haven’t stated what it is that you DO want.  This is an all too familiar scenario between couples.  In relationships we often assume that our partner’s “SHOULD” know what we like, dislike, want, or desire yet we fail to mention it all to them.   We are then left feeling disappointed when they “fail us”.  In your case, not only have you not expressed your feelings, but you have actually been reinforcing the wrong message (which will only ensure that you receive the “dreaded roses”).  Here is a news flash: “YOUR PARTNER CANNOT READ YOUR MIND!”   It may be your belief that if you tell your husband how he can best demonstrate his love to you then the act itself will become less romantic or hold less meaning.  This is just simply not true!   It is quite romantic to know that your partner wants to please you!   You are doing your relationship a disservice to keep your husband in the dark about your feelings, as you are not honoring his efforts and you are not getting what it is that you ultimately want.  

I suggest that you and your husband work on “A Loving Behaviors Checklist.“   Think about which caring behaviors your partner does now, used to do, or has never done that would make you feel loved.   Then exchange your lists so that you will both know exactly how to hit your partners “love button.”  View this checklist as a blueprint on how to unconditionally “gift” one another with meaningful acts that are sure to hit the mark.    May this be the Happiest Valentine’s Day yet!

Signed,

Dr. Z

 

Laura Zipris holds a doctorate in Psychology and is licensed to practice psychotherapy in New York, as well as in Florida. Laura is certified in Imago Relationship Therapy, a transformational approach that has been used successfully with couples around the world to help them to strengthen their partnerships, deepen their connection and reignite their passion for one another. Laura sees individuals of all ages and sexual orientations, couples, families, and groups in her offices located in Wellington and Delray Beach.  In addition to her psychotherapy practice, Dr. Zipris works part time as a licensed school psychologist for the Palm Beach County School District.  

For more information about Laura, please visit her website at www.drlaurazipris.com  or to set up an appointment, contact Laura directly at (561) 558-7815. 

Questions for this column should be sent to Dr. “Z”  at Drlaurazip@gmail.com