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January, 2011 – The 365th Night Reflection

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The 365th Night Reflection

By Stephanie Courtois

The clock strikes twelve and a burst of joyful roars echoes throughout the room.  The adults toast their champagne glasses and the young ones holler with their noise makers. It’s a festive evening and a time for change.

          New Year’s is a fresh start for everyone. It is around this time, that a tradition tells us to kick bad habits and make this year better than the last. On average, a teen’s  resolution may vary from a variety of issues yet to be overcome such as losing weight, spending more time with family or getting straight A’s on a report card.

          At first, the tasks seem easy to conquer. Usually, it doesn’t take too long before people give up. The temptation is extremely desirable. Last year I had made a pact with myself to cease procrastinating when it comes to weekend homework assignments. Yet, on every Sunday night I continue to work strenuously trying to insure that all of my homework is finished for the next day. I could easily complete it on Friday or Saturday, but in my mind, it’s always impossible.

Resolutions take a great deal of effort to achieve. This is the big question for many; is it genuinely possible to stick to a New Year’s resolution throughout the entire course of the year? The answer to that is absolutely yes. Here are some tips that can help teens follow through on their goals.

For one, it is necessary that a sensible goal is set. Wishing to become valedictorian of the class is unrealistic if that person was not a conscientious student for the majority of high school. A better idea is to study an hour more for a science test to reach a higher grade.

          Secondly, think of alternative activities to make a distraction from the bad habit. Partake in extracurricular activities or study groups to enhance the effort.

Lastly, keep a positive mindset. Throughout the year, constantly be aware of the desired goal and envision the benefits of maintaining that resolution. Confidence is key when it comes to a teen’s mentality.

The commencement of a new year spawns the will for improvement in oneself. Whether that set resolution is sustained for the 365 days of the year or just the one is solely based on a personal decision. January 1st marks a time for a change. It is entirely up to you how long it lasts.

Stephanie Courtois is a junior at Wellington High School. She is involved in tae kwon do, French, National and Chemistry Honor Societies, and is the news editor for the school newspaper. She loves journalism and aspires to work for a magazine someday.

 

 

 

January, 2011 – AW in Pictures

 
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Alex Shaw and his guitar instructor from Boomer's Music play to a big crowd at the Palms West Chamber's Holiday Parade in Wellington. Photo by Christine Rose.

 

Janelle Dowley on the Two Men and a Truck float in the PW Chamber's Holiday Parade. Photo by Christine Rose.
Janelle Dowley on the Two Men and a Truck float in the PW Chamber's Holiday Parade. Photo by Christine Rose.
 Roxanne Stein emcees at WinterFest, which was held at Wellington's new Amphitheater.
Roxanne Stein emcees at WinterFest, which was held at Wellington's new Amphitheater.
 Vanilla Ice serves as the main emcee at WinterFest. Wild Eyes Photography
Vanilla Ice serves as the main emcee at WinterFest. Wild Eyes Photography.

January, 2011 – Cholesterol: What Do The Numbers Mean?

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heather-loguidiceAsk the Docs

Cholesterol: What Do The Numbers Mean?

By Heather Loguidice, ARNP

 

Let’s all let out a collective sigh of relief now that the holidays are over.  Hopefully, your stress level has decreased as you packed away the last holiday decoration.  I am sure we have all over indulged in gooey sweets, succulent meats with gravy, loads of mashed potatoes, and loaves of bread with butter. I can feel my cholesterol going higher just thinking about all of the rich holiday foods that I have consumed over the past two months.

 

Cholesterol is a fat-like substance found in the bloodstream and in all your body’s cells. Your body produces all of the cholesterol that it needs via the liver.  Your diet also contributes to your cholesterol level.  Having too much cholesterol increases your risk for heart disease and stroke.

 

Cholesterol is broken down into low-density lipoprotein (LDL), the “bad kind” and high-density lipoprotein, the “good kind”.  Too much LDL can clog the arteries causing reduced blood flow. If this clogged area ruptures, a blood clot may form or a piece may break off and travel in the bloodstream. If it travels to the heart, it causes a heart attack.  If it travels to the brain, it causes a stroke.  HDL carries bad cholesterol away from the arteries and helps protect you from heart attack and stroke.  Thus, high levels of HDL help to reduce your risk for heart disease and stroke.

 

Blood cholesterol for adults is classified by levels. Your healthcare provider must interpret your cholesterol numbers based on other risk factors such as age, gender, family history, race, smoking, high blood pressure, physical inactivity, obesity, and diabetes. The American Heart Association recommends following the National Cholesterol Education Program ( NCEP) guidelines for evaluation of high cholesterol. Total cholesterol levels should be less than 200mg/dl.  Levels between 200 and 239 mg/dl are borderline high. Levels above 240 mg/dl are considered to be very high and doubles your risk for heart disease. Optimal HDL levels should be greater than 50 for women and greater than 40 for men.  Levels above 60mg/dl are considered protective against heart disease.

 

Your LDL goal depends on how many other risk factors you have. If you don’t have heart disease or diabetes and have one or no risk factors, your LDL goal is less than 160 mg/dl. If you have two or more risk factors without having heart disease or diabetes, your LDL goal is less than 130 mg/dl. If you have heart disease or diabetes, your LDL goal is less than 100mg/dl.

 

Triglyceride is the most common type of fat in the body. It contributes to your total cholesterol level. Ideally, your triglyceride level should be less than 150 mg/dl.

 

Therapeutic lifestyle changes to lower LDL cholesterol involves losing excess weight, exercising regularly, and following a diet that is low in saturated fat and cholesterol. Increasing your intake of fiber, fruits, vegetables, chicken and fish can help lower your bad cholesterol. Avoid fried foods, limit red meat to once a week, avoid saturated fats found in butter and palm oil, and avoid processed foods such as cookies and doughnuts.

 

Red yeast rice is available over the counter as a product to help lower cholesterol. Red yeast rice is rice that has been fermented by the red yeast. It has been used in China for over 1000 years for medicinal purposes. Limited studies have been done in the United States looking at the effects of red yeast rice. It is believed to be safe in the long-term since it has been a food staple for thousands of years in Asian countries without reports of toxicity.  The products available in the United States do not contain high enough levels of red yeast rice to cause harmful effects. Patients with moderate to severe LDL levels (> 160mg/dl), and those who are at a high risk of developing heart attack or stroke are not candidates for red yeast rice.

 

Omega 3 fish oil is another natural way to lower cholesterol particularly when one has elevated triglycerides. The recommended dose varies from 1 to 4 grams per day depending on triglyceride level and risk factors. Fish oil can be obtained by eating fish such as tuna, salmon, anchovy, sardines, mackerel, and trout. Over the counter supplements are available, but make sure the product is purified to reduce contaminants such as mercury and dioxins. There is a purified form of omega 3 fish oil available by prescription called Lovaza.

 

Statins are prescription medication used to lower cholesterol and reduce the risk of heart disease and stroke. Statins stimulate the body to process and remove cholesterol from the body. Their major effect is to lower LDL levels. Other prescription medications include bile acid binders, niacin, and fibric acids that can all be used to reduce LDL and, in some cases, raise HDL levels.  Always follow your healthcare provider’s orders carefully, and inform him/her of any side effects. You will have to have regular blood tests to evaluate your liver function and cholesterol levels when taking any of these medications.

 

If you would like further information or would like to have your cholesterol evaluated, please call us at Family Medical and Wellness Center (561) 721-1953.

Heather Loguidice, ARNP, works closely with doctors Glover and Vizcaino and is certified in Family Practice. Her experience spans 14 years and she has worked in Fast-Track ER’s and a few large Family Practice offices. Her interests include Women’s Health and Pediatrics and she has a wide range of experience in all Family Practice related matters. Heather is a big Gator’s fan; she lives in Boynton Beach and enjoys spending her free time with her daughter.

 

January, 2011 – Resolutions 2011

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As I Was SayingAlan Williamson

 

 

Resolutions 2011

 

By Alan Williamson

 

The dawning of a new year is an opportune time to pause and reflect on my life and how I can live it with more purpose, peace and enjoyment. But due to the hectic nature of the holiday season, my profound reflections are often pre-empted by thoughts like “Can I just get everyone moist towelettes this year?” and “Mmmm . . . cocoa brownie balls.”   That being the case, here’s the best resolutions I could come up with under such challenging circumstances.

 

Resolution # 1: I will beat a Kenyan in a short foot race and finally cross that goal off my bucket list. (I actually beat a Kenyan in a 50-yard race in a park last year but he was pushing a stroller at the time and may not have been aware I was racing him. Also, he may have been Cuban.)

 

Resolution # 2: I will find the time to go back to doing what it is I do best: teaching inner city kids to yodel.

 

Resolution # 3:  I will develop an alternative to the Internet called “The Infobahn.” It will have only a fraction of the content but will be 10 times faster.

 

Resolution # 4: I will revive my basketball career by finding a new agent. (While LeBron James, Dwayne Wade and Chris Bosh got sweet deals to join the Miami Heat this past summer, my current agent landed me a non-paying gig on the Fort Lauderdale Parks and Rec Basketball League’s Loitering Lizards.)

 

Resolution # 5: I will make plans to throw a big party sometime. (Wait, did I say “big party”? I meant “discussion group with light refreshments.”)

 

Resolution # 6: I will work day and night to put together the Leno/McCartney reunion concert that the world yearns for. (I just can’t help shake the feeling that the concept is fundamentally flawed. Must talk to Jay and Paul’s people about their interest levels.)

 

Resolution # 7: I will lose 35 lbs. on The Chicken Pot Pie and Low-Fat Fudgesicle Diet and inspire millions to do the same by appearing in a series of national ads using my old pants as a parasail while being pulled over the ocean by a powerboat.

 

Resolution # 8: I will become utterly absorbed in a new and greater reality while still maintaining my availability to participate in happy hours, barbecues, card games and other traditional, old-reality activities.

 

Resolution # 9: I will only LOL when I find something LOL funny, which won’t be nearly as often as a lot of LOL people who will LOL without any provocation whatsoever. (Example #1: Just bought two cans of diced tomatoes, lol.” Example # 2: “Thought today was the 24th, not the 23rd, lol.” Example # 3: One of these days I’ll get to Wyoming, lol.) I hope that gratuitous LOL people everywhere will follow my lead and stop the insanity. LMAO (but not really).

 

Resolution # 10: I will finally learn my lesson and stop listening to TV weather people who give advice like “good day to hit that street fair downtown.” Instead, if they predict ‘no rain’ for the day, I’ll make it a point to load up on DVDs and wait for the torrential downpour.

 

Resolution # 11: I will use my extensive experience to work with governments, nonprofit agencies and international organizations to help developing countries build self-reliance and economic independence. I’ll get right on this right after I find a job.

 

Resolution # 12: I will do some serious soul searching and decide whether I’d rather be a big fish in a small pond, a small fish in a big pond, or a fish special on a menu of diverse offerings that may include Seared Peppered Scallops with Orange-Soy Glaze, Moroccan Chicken with Eggplant and Almonds, and Blackened Red Snapper with Creole Sauce. (SPOILER ALERT: The smart money’s on “big fish, small pond.”)

 

Resolution # 13: I will express my “inner werewolf” by not showering or shaving for weeks on end and throwing my head back whenever I get the urge and letting loose with a hearty “Aw, Aw – Awwwwooooo!!”

 

Happy 2011 everyone! Greet each day as a gift, enjoy the journey, and don’t forget to stop and smell the cocoa brownie balls. Oh yeah, and one last thing: “Aw, Aw – Awwwwooooo!!”

 

Alan Williamson is an award-winning writer with 27 years in the field of true fiction (advertising). A practical man who knows that writing for a living is risky going, he has taken steps to pursue a second, more stable career as a leggy super model. Alan can be reached at .  © 2010 Alan Williamson.

 

January, 2011- A Healthy New Year

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Mommy Moments

A Healthy New Year

By Melanie Lewismelanielewis2

 

“No Child Left on Their Behind” – this is a movement sweeping the country to get kids up off the couch and from behind the computer and video games to get moving.  The key to success of the program isn’t the schools or teachers.  The key to the success of getting kids active, in my opinion, are the parents.  Parents are a role model.  Ever find your kids repeating what you’ve said?  Then you know exactly what I mean by being an influence on the formative years.  So, we stop and ask ourselves what are we doing to show that we take care of ourselves?  Do I smoke?  Do I take time to prepare healthy meals and snacks?  Do I exercise regularly?  Do I take my kids with me on bike rides, roller-blading or swimming?   If you’re in the habit of thinking a fun afternoon activity is going to the movies, it may take a bit more effort to launch into a new habit of going to the park or a game of baseball in the backyard.  First we make our habits, then our habits make us,” says Charles C. Noble.  Make a healthier family by making healthier habits.

 

One way to determine exactly how you fall in the activity scale is to keep an activity journal for a week for each member of the family.  In that journal, whether it’s a formal spreadsheet or back of an envelope, note the number of minutes by day.  What studies have found is that people generally over estimate how much they’ve exercised.

Similarly, people tend to underestimate what they’ve eaten.  Keep an accurate and honest list of the daily eats.   You may find, like many counting Points Plus values or calories that they can consume a lot more than they think in a day. 

“Food is love,” another mom stated, as were talking about the holiday eating and vast amounts of food. She couldn’t keep herself out of the Oreo cookies and found herself with her face in the bag whenever there was procrastination to be done.  She said she HAD to have them for her kids. Why?  She said because they were a way of saying she loved them.  She associated food with being loved and a feeling of home.  Needless to say, her doctor had told her to lose 40 pounds and her parents were both overweight she admitted.  You’ll never guess… the pediatrician informed her that her kids needed to lose weight too.  For some this may be “tough love” on the parents. According to Bette Davis, “Discipline is a symbol of caring to a child. He needs guidance. If there is love, there is no such thing as being too tough with a child. A parent must also not be afraid to hang himself. If you have never been hated by your child, you have never been a parent.”  

The obvious answer to me was . . . just don’t buy Oreos.  If they are not in the house you won’t be tempted.  I banned Goldfish crackers after finding them too irresistible for me. There was some whining, but we found as long as a banana or an apple were present, that was just as easily consumed.  The media has increased the attention on a national obesity epidemic.  From the Freelibrary.com, “So far, a combination of factors are known to contribute to obesity and diabetes: Lack of physical activity, general sedentary behavior, low socioeconomic status, poor eating habits, and over-exposure to advertising of foods that are high in calories are all implicated.

However, I would say it has little to do with advertising for Happy Meals; the parents hold the wallet and the authority to determine what their children eat.  Albert Einstein wrote, “Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will – his personal responsibility.”  If you find happy meals a problem, you don’t need to stop at a fast food place. When on the run, plan ahead with a cooler of sandwiches, fruit and water.  Your wallet will also thank you for getting everyone nutritious food.  By continuing to ramp up your activity and make nutritious food choices, I wish you all a healthier New Year!

Melanie is the mother of 2 boys, 5 and 7 years old. They have a Ragdoll, named Percy and a Golden Retriever, named Rosie. She works part-time as a weight-loss consultant and is an independent Silpada Jewelry Representative:  http:/mysilpada.com/melanie.lewis

January, 2011 – Astrology at Work

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ASTROLOGY AT WORK IN YOUR LIFE

 

January, 2011

 

By Karola Crawfordkarolacrawford2

 

 

    Happy New Year and Happy Birthday to Capricorn, the “Organizer.” What the world needs now are you Capricorns to help bring visions and disciplined responsibility into manifestation.  Your ruler is Saturn, which represents withholding and resistance to change; however, without Saturn, there would only be dreams and hopes as nothing concrete would ever carry out the desires of the dreamers and visionaries. You are the heads of the boundaries and rules department and will carry an event through to its finish.  The downside of this organized sign is the ability to build walls and keep change out; however, deep inside every Capricorn is an authority figure that really fears failure and therefore is sometimes afraid to act.  With the help of the placement of other signs in your chart, the ethical and moral part of your nature will cause you to act in the best interest of everyone involved.  Saturn is where you are most disciplined and where you will teach yourself and others the virtues of patience, endurance and responsibility.  Because of the fondness of boundaries, it is also the planet in charge of organization, structures and guidelines.  It teaches that the seeds that you have sown will manifest in the future and that you should respect your elders, learn from their values and do things right the first time.  There are definite lessons to be learned from thinking things out and then acting appropriately.

 

   Capricorn – With Pluto’s recent transition into your sign, you are able to make great changes and turn the whole thing around, though it may take time to see the final result.  Don’t underestimate your ability to affect large numbers of people.  You now have the floor!  Let final decisions rest until the end of this month though.

 

   Aquarius – Your sense of optimism and expansion will cause others to take notice.  Listen to your intuition since you have heightened awareness at this time and follow through by researching your point.  You can act in a few weeks.

 

   Pisces – Your sense of beauty is brought out into the social arena and unusual and sudden events may cause you to desire freedom above everything.  Expect surprises.

 

   Aries – Take charge and use your go-getter approach to be more organized and responsible this month.  Your fearless attitude will go far with the discipline and courage endowed to you by Saturn.  This is a great time to research new options.

 

   Taurus – With your heightened sense of joy and ability to create beauty and comfort in your surroundings, you can throw the best parties and dinners and appreciate the simple get-togethers of family and friends.  Teach others that beauty is all around them.

 

   Gemini – This month rethink those plans that you thought were finalized.  There may be changes that you had not noticed or something that you took for granted is not as it seems.  Your computers, telephones and writings may be challenges.

 

   Cancer – You are feeling comfortable and your emotional needs are being met more consistently.  The trade-off may be a less intuitive “mood”, but it may be easier to get quiet and still at this time.  Nurture yourself gently with a bubble bath and candles.

 

   Leo – Your creative best may require a rethinking just when you were ready to make final plans.  You will be appreciated for shedding light on some unforeseen details that others may have missed and win the confidence of others by revealing the missed error.

 

   Virgo – The planetary aspects bestowed upon you may feel as though you want to make major changes in your life and throw caution to the wind, when instead the changes required are to let go of your own rigidity and see the viewpoint of someone else.  Next month will prove that you did the right thing by slowing down.

 

   Libra – Your ability to balance events and charm people is the strong point that will shine through the events of this month.  Allow creativity to flow and lead others to beautiful surroundings and fine art.

 

   Scorpio – Your powerful organizational skills are being put to the test when you are asked to rejuvenate intense and inevitable circumstances for the sake of evolution.  The importance of your concentrated and transformational energy is what is required at this time.  Don’t hold back but give it a few weeks before you finalize any major changes.

 

   Sagittarius – Your sudden insights and futuristic thinking is emphasized this month.  Go out on a limb and be bold enough to find a new way to solve a problem.  You may inspire breakthroughs that help all of humanity.  Wait until next month to make it final.

 

Karola Crawford, MAFA, has been a certified Astrologer for 25 years. She has cast charts for clients all over the world and also practices Holistic medicine, Yoga, Shiatsu, Reiki, Auricular Acupucture and is an accomplished artist. Where does she get all of her energy? A grand trine in fire, of course. Karola can be reached at 561-234-6338 or by visiting the web site at www.shamanofvisionsforhealing.com.

January, 2011 – Dublin: Historic, Spirited, and Friendly

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Travel with TerriTerri Farris

 

 

Dublin:  Historic, Spirited and Friendly!

 

By Terri Marshall, Photos by Gregory Holder

 

Established in 841 by the Norse, Dublin, Ireland has been around a long long time!  Yet, this ancient city is one of the fastest growing cities in Europe and provides an intriguing mix of history and contemporary cultures.  Having seen its share of troubles through famines, plagues, the Easter Rising in 1916, the War of Independence and the Irish Civil War, the city has persevered through hard times and is now listed among the top 30 cities in the world! 

 

The historical and contemporary aspects of Dublin are notable even in its landmarks.  Founded on the orders of King John of England in 1204 for the purpose of a defending the city, Dublin Castle is the oldest of the landmarks.  In contrast is one of Dublin’s newest monuments the Spire of Dublin – officially titled the “Monument of Light”.  This 398-foot conical spire made of stainless steel is intended to mark Dublin’s place in the 21st Century.  At night, the illuminated top of the monument provides a beacon in the sky across the city. 

 

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Streets of Dublin

 

 

 

Dublin has plenty of options for sightseeing and entertainment.  Dublin’s city centre is home to several shopping districts including Grafton Street, Henry Street and Stephen’s Green Shopping Centre. A stroll along Grafton Street brings visitors face to face with entertaining street-performers and artists.  At the end of the street stands a statute of Molly Malone, the subject of the song by the same name that tells the fictional tale of a beautiful fishmonger who plied her trade on the streets of Dublin, but who died young of a fever.  Leave it to the Irish to adopt a song about a fictional character as the unofficial anthem of Dublin City!  Adjacent to Grafton Street is St. Stephen’s Green, one of Dublin’s most popular parks and the perfect place for a city picnic.  This lovely 27-acre park was formerly a private park with access restricted to the area residents.  In 1880, thanks to a member of the Guinness family, it became a public park to be enjoyed by all who enter.

 

Old Jameson Distillery
Old Jameson Distillery

And speaking of Guinness, Dublin is where it began!  Founded in 1759, the Guinness brewery had a huge economic impact on the city.  For much of the time it has served as the largest employer in the city.  Although the corporate headquarters were moved to London in the 1930’s to avoid Irish taxation, the brewery remains and the Guinness flows freely in the local pubs.  Located in the heart of St. James Gate Brewery, the Guinness Storehouse is Dublin’s #1 tourist attraction.  Tours take guests through a historical timeline of the company and through the steps to brewing the “black stuff”.  On the fifth floor of the Guinness Storehouse you can learn how to pour the perfect pint of Guinness and receive a certificate proving you have mastered the craft the bartenders make look so easy!  The Gravity Bar on the seventh floor provides panoramic views of Dublin and a place to relax and enjoy a pint (or two) of Guinness.  http://www.guinness-storehouse.com

 

 

 

 

 

In the 1770’s a Scotland born John Jameson came to town and began concocting his own spirits with the founding of Jameson Whiskey.  His unique triple distilling process perfected the whiskey and guaranteed him acceptance by the Irish – in fact many say he is more Irish than the Irish born!  The Old Jameson Distillery is located in the Smithfield Village area of Dublin and visitors flock to this location to learn about the history of Jameson as well as the process of producing one of the world’s finest whiskeys.  A few lucky volunteers get to participate in a whiskey comparison tasting!  www.jamesonwhiskey.com

 

Sand sculpture on Grafton Street
Sand sculpture on Grafton Street

 

 

 

James Joyce, George Bernard Show, Samuel Beckett, Oscar Wilde and Bram Stoker are just a few of the famous writers and playwrights originating from Dublin.  James Joyce’s most celebrated work, Ulysses, is set in Dublin.  His collection of short stories, Dubliners, tells of incidents typical of the characters who resided in the city in the early 20th century.  One thing many of these historic writers had in common – other than writing – was their love of the local pubs.  Dublin’s Literary Pub Crawl is a unique way to be entertained by the works of some of these great writers while touring the streets of Dublin.  It is not necessary to be a literary genius or even a drinker to enjoy the pub crawl.  Actors lead the tour providing entertaining stories and excerpts from the works of some of Dublin’s greatest literary figures.  There is also a stop at Trinity College – whose notable alumni include Oscar Wilde, Samuel Beckett and Bram Stoker.  Pubs visited are the very same pubs these literary greats frequented for a little spirited inspiration! www.dublinpubcrawl.com

 

The River Liffey in Dublin City
The River Liffey in Dublin City

 

 

 

 

For visitors who really enjoy the nightlife, Dublin’s Temple Bar area just south of the River Liffey is internationally known as the city’s most popular nightspot.  Here revelers will find a variety of options ranging from clubs to intimate pubs with live music.   This is also a popular destination for “stag and hen” parties from Britain.

 

Voted the friendliest city in Europe in 2009, Dublin does not disappoint.  Perhaps Ronnie Wood of the Rolling Stones said it best: “I go off into Dublin and two days later I’m spotted walking by the Liffey with a whole bunch of new friends.”  www.discoverireland.com

 

Terri is a freelance writer with regular columns on travel, chocolate and bar reviews. She is busy each month visiting new places to bring unique travel destinations and events to you. Yes, it is a sacrifice – but she is willing to do that for her readers! You can see more of Terri’s writing at www.examiner.com where she is the National Chocolate Examiner and at www.barzz.net. You can contact Terri at terri.marshall60@gmail.com.

January, 2011 – Grateful

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Grateful
am I
for the sight to see
the beauty
in the earth below
and the sky above;

Blessed

am I
to feel the rustling
of wind blowing
through my hair;

Thankful

am I
to smell the rain
in the air;

Appreciative

am I
to hear the sound
of silence
as she brings
peace to my ears
and love
to my eyes

~ Bryan W Hayes
December 23, 2010

January, 2011 – Letters to Dr. Z

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Ask Dr. Laura ZiprisZ

January, 2011

By Laura Zipris, Psy. D., LMHC

Dear Dr. Z.,

The holidays have come and gone and once again, my husband and I have experienced “holiday hell.”  We fought about whose family’s holiday traditions we will follow and how we will divide our time between both of our parents. We do this every year. We always get so stressed out trying to please everyone and trying to give our families equal time that we end up hating Christmas. This year we ran ourselves ragged to attend all of our families’ holiday events.  They began to feel more like obligations than celebrations.  The worst part is that we spent the holidays pretty much not speaking with one another. Help!! It is a new year and I do not want to spend the next holiday season being miserable with my spouse.

Signed,

My Holiday Hell

 

Dear My Holiday Hell,

It sounds to me like this new year may be just the time to start a new holiday tradition that you and your husband co-create.   You can begin by communicating with one other about what the holidays mean to you and how you want your future celebrations to look and feel.   Once you’ve shared this with each other and you both feel heard, then together you can create a “holiday vision”.   Stay mindful that you and your husband are your own family unit.  Together you have the right to design new traditions and to lovingly set your own boundaries with your respective families.   Always remember, that when it feels like there are only two possible options, stay in connection, communicate with your partner, and focus on picking the third option….because it is out there.

Signed,

Laura Zipris, Psy.D., LMHC

www.drlaurazipris.com

drlaurazip@gmail.com

 

Dear Dr. Z.,

I have recently heard a frightening statistic about the occurrence of child sexual abuse.  Even more unsettling are the reports that it is most often perpetrated by a person known to the family.  I know how to teach my child about stranger danger but I am not sure how to teach my 8 year old daughter how to keep safe from the people she knows.

Signed,

Frightened mother

 

Dear Frightened Mother,

You are right to be concerned as a parent.  The occurrence of child sexual abuse in this country is staggering.  That being said, you should know that there is much that you can do to empower yourself and your daughter to make her “OFF LIMITS” to child predators.  First, teach your daughter that in your family, you don’t keep secrets and that it is safe for her to tell you anything.  Child predators profile children that they can groom by gaining trust and testing to see if the child is willing to keep secrets from his or her parents.   The next focus should be to teach your child that she is the BOSS OF HER OWN BODY and to create “body-safety rules” within your family.  You can take control of who your daughter spends her time with by meeting all of her friends and their parents.  Provide your child with your ongoing supervision, listen to your intuition about people, and most important, listen to your child.  Also, consider discussing your “body safety rules” with your friends and family so that everyone is on board in helping to make your child “OFF LIMITS.”  For more very useful information and specific strategies, I highly recommend the book, Off Limits: A Parent’s Guide to Keeping Kids Safe from Sexual Abuse, by Feather Berkower.

Signed,

Laura Zipris, Psy.D., LMHC

www.drlaurazipris.com

drlaurazip@gmail.com

Laura Zipris holds a doctorate in Psychology and is licensed to practice psychotherapy in New York, as well as in Florida. Laura is certified in Imago Relationship Therapy, a transformational approach that has been used successfully with couples around the world to help them to strengthen their partnerships, deepen their connection and reignite their passion for one another. Laura sees individuals of all ages and sexual orientations, couples, families, and groups in her offices located in Wellington and Delray Beach.  In addition to her psychotherapy practice, Dr. Zipris works part time as a licensed school psychologist for the Palm Beach County School District.  

For more information about Laura, please visit her website at www.drlaurazipris.com  or to set up an appointment, contact Laura directly at (561) 558-7815. 

Questions for this column should be sent to Dr. “Z”  at Drlaurazip@gmail.com  

December, 2010 – Lake Worth Playhouse Celebration

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NEW YEAR’S SWING TIME
Friday December 31 at 8:00pm
This lively concert features South Florida entertainer, Missy McArdle, backed by Glen Rovinelli’s ten-piece orchestra,
performing standard classics from The American Songbook. The concert includes music that spans the generations from
World War II on, including favorites from Rosemary Clooney, and a selection of songs that will set the tone for a festive
New Year’s celebration. The evening features live music, hors d’oeuvres, party favors and a champagne toast.
Just $35 per person.
 

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